Results of My Update
February 2nd, 2008
Just a little something to get myself out of work mode and into writing work mode.
If you haven’t read ‘An Update On Life’ then don’t bother reading this. It’s just another tiny update on a situation. No insight, no pictures painted in flowery words. Just stuff. :)
For those of you wondering about the situation- the one in my most recent post, with the co worker who was mad at me for things I didn’t say, I wanted to let you know it all worked out. She didn’t confront me about it like I was hoping but I know her. She likes to set things build under pressure and then surprise me a month or so down the line by being angry at what seems a random thing.
So I confronter her. I waited till the end of her night and asks if she was angry at me for anything. She said no but the way she said it and the feel of her aura gave me reason to double check. I mentioned that I’d heard about the situation and asked if that’s what she was told. She had. I proceeded to tell her my side of things very calmly as she is an easily angered person under a lot of stress at the moment.
It turns out her boyfriend and her are having some severe communication difficulties (nearly her words, I didn’t say this though it is my opinion, and by nearly I mean I shortened what she said) and he has said a lot of her girl friends are saying this but in truth it’s her ex saying these things. He doesn’t want to look bad by saying he got into an argument with the ex but at the same time, and understandably so, he can’t help but say something to her.
I was so relieved to find out she wasn’t angry with me. I proceeded to tell her that I had mentioned the pregnancy tests and what he’d said to me about the birth control, quickly backing up and telling her I didn’t want to know if it was true or not to prevent a tangent (which still happened) even though I did want to know. I told her that this is what I thought he may have misconstrued as what I’d been accused of saying and that’s why I believed she was angry at me.
We spent the next half and hour talking. Me giving her relationship and post foster care advice and her telling me all the things she was worried about and confiding in me about several things. I really do wish her the best. Given, she’s not the best of people in my opinion, but she’s going through quite a bit right now and I’m glad that I plucked up the courage in the end to confront her otherwise she might not have had anyone to tell these things to and that would have been a real shame.
it’s good to be honest. well done on doing this, cos it could have gone badly. but i reckon your open and honest approach would have helped. :-)
I’m sad to say that today proved that we still can’t seem to get along very well or perhaps very ‘long’. *sigh* But I’m still glad we had that one night of common ground. I’m sure it went a long way to smoothing things over and even if she forgets it- it made an impact on me and I’m glad I did it.
u have done a good job spirit. thankgod all’s well in the end. happy ending of a stressful story.
i am happy for both of u. and thumbs-up to u spirit. you rock.
lv u :)
Preetilata: Thankies very much and I’m so happy to see that you’re back and doing well. :) I’ve missed you.